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What Exactly Is Squirting?

Interested in exploring squirting orgasms? Contrary to popular belief, they are not just adult movie gimmicks. With a little practice, anyone can learn how to squirt. While these orgasms are not the same as clitoral or G-spot orgasms, they offer another exciting avenue for sexual exploration. Curious about female ejaculation? I have some tips, tricks to help you on your journey. Additionally, I’m going to delve deeper into the question: What exactly is squirting? Let's make it rain!

How to Squirt: First Time Tips

First of all, there are two (no, three) ways to achieve a squirting orgasm: pure clitoral play, intense focused G-spot stimulation, and co-clitoral + G-spot stimulation. You may be born a clitoral or G-spot squirter, and until you explore squirting, you won’t know which is your erogenous zone!

This is a spiritual thing, learning to spray. (At least for most people with clitoris and vaginas; others naturally drool/squirt/ejaculate during arousal and orgasm.) I'm someone who needs to learn to squirt, and it's a process. Mainly because you have to overcome the psychological barrier of "holding back." It also stops a lot of people from engaging in intense G-spot play: it feels like they’re about to pee, which can be embarrassing! But overcoming this feeling is the key to achieving a great climax.

The first tip for getting used to letting go: invest in a waterproof blanket. Cleaning up will be easier, and you'll feel more comfortable in bed. (Instead of being relegated to the bathtub!) Freeing.

Another tip is to gradually increase the intensity and incorporate Kegel exercises. Start by slowly increasing the intensity, then work your pelvic floor muscles with Kegel holds. Hold each fist for about 5 seconds, then release. If you like the feeling, try alternating Kegel holds and releases, counting upwards between each time. This rhythmic clench increases the tension you naturally want to release and enhances pleasure.

Here are some additional tips for exploring squirting orgasms:

  1. Embrace the idea of letting go and feel the joy of getting wet. There’s no shame in this – enjoying the experience is the most important thing!
  1. Incorporate nipple play into your arousal routine, whether on your own or with a partner. Increased arousal in this area can enhance your overall buildup.
  1. Allow yourself to release some small joys before suppressing them. This is especially effective if you are able to experience multiple orgasms.
  1. Try applying more pressure and increasing the intensity of stimulation, whether that's rubbing your clitoris or using a G-spot toy. Find what feels best for you and follow it.
  1. Get yourself so excited that you expect to make a mess. Taking a moment to drink water and focus on feelings that can no longer be suppressed can enhance the experience.
  1. When you feel your orgasm coming, don’t hesitate – push outward and let the moisture flow out naturally.
  1. If you are trying to induce squirting vaginally without success, try withdrawing your fingers, sex toys, or penis at the onset of orgasm. When the vagina is penetrated, it is more challenging to release the fluid.
  1. Don’t forget to enjoy the process and don’t put pressure on yourself to achieve specific results. Whether you experience a squirting orgasm or not, the most important thing is to have fun and focus on the pleasure you feel. Remember, sexual health is about embracing the feelings and enjoying the moment, no matter the outcome.

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Are squirting orgasms more intense or better?

The squirting orgasm is often described as the pinnacle of sexual pleasure, but the reality is more nuanced. While they can be very intense, they are not necessarily the ultimate or "best" orgasm for everyone. It’s too simplistic to equate squirting with the highest level of sexual satisfaction.

Squirting is popular in porn and kink scenes because it provides a visible indicator of sexual arousal and pleasure. However, it is important to realize that squirting can occur without orgasm, and mind-blowing multiple orgasms can occur without squirting. Sexual experiences vary from person to person, and what brings intense pleasure to one person may not be the same to another.

Squirting is sometimes fetishized for its taboo nature and uniqueness. While this can add an element of fun and excitement, it's important to realize that fetishes can also objectify individuals and their experiences.

Regarding terminology, "female ejaculation" is often used as a softer alternative to "squirting." However, I choose not to use these two terms in this article. “Female ejaculation” may imply a comparison to penile ejaculation, which may overlook the validity and desirability of squirting as a unique experience independent of male anatomy. It’s crucial to embrace diverse sexual experiences without tying them to specific genitalia or norms.

What exactly is squirting?

The question often sparks debate and speculation, even within the sex education community. Unfortunately, there is a lack of comprehensive medical research on this topic, so there are many explanations. Some studies suggest that the ejaculate consists primarily of urine, while others suggest the presence of prostate-specific antigen (PSA) from Skene's gland (commonly known as the "female prostate").

The reality is that squirting varies from person to person, with different people experiencing different chemical compositions and causes of squirting. That's totally fine. Whether it is primarily urine or involves Skene's gland secretions, it should not diminish the attractiveness or sexiness of the act itself.

If you're concerned about fluid release during sex, strengthening your pelvic floor muscles with Kegel exercises may help. These exercises, which involve simple clenching and holding, repeated three times per week for six weeks, can improve pelvic floor and urinary control for many vulva and vagina owners.

The urethral sponge naturally prevents fluid from escaping when the vagina is penetrated, making squirting during penetrative sex more difficult to achieve. This is why external stimulation or internal pressure combined with pelvic floor control is often necessary for squirting. Personally, Kegel exercises have helped me learn to squirt voluntarily, enhancing the sensation of release when experiencing multiple orgasms.


Last words

Unlocking the potential for squirting orgasms is a journey of exploration, not just a fantasy from adult movies. With practice and the right approach, anyone can learn to squirt. While squirting orgasms offer a unique avenue for sexual exploration, they're not necessarily superior to other types of orgasms. It's essential to understand that sexual satisfaction varies from person to person. The true nature of squirting remains debated, but embracing diverse experiences without judgment is crucial.

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